My Solo Sex Routine Has Gotten Stale—What Can I Do to Give Myself a Better, Stronger Orgasm?

Dear Franca, After a long year of being single, even my solo sex routine has gotten a bit stale. While it's been a great run for me and my hand, I'm ready to try something new—hopefully something that can make my climax even stronger. Any tips on how to mix up my masturbation routine?

Let me start by saying that you should feel good about the fact that you've mastered the masturbation basics, you've honed your self-loving skills, and now you're ready to take them to the next level. Focusing on your own pleasure is important, and if you can't get yourself off, how can you expect things to be better with a partner? Way to take control.Now for your question. Many women find one surefire way to get themselves going and stick to that routine every time they get down with themselves. And while that's all well and good, things are bound to get a bit dull if you're touching yourself the same way for years on end. Much like your sex life with a partner, it's important to always be expanding your solo sex life and exploring new paths to pleasure.If you're looking for a few hot new moves to bring the excitement back, here are three things definitely worth working into your solo sex routine:1. Lube, lube, and more lubeWhoever said "wetter is better" was absolutely talking about the benefits of lube. Lube is the most underrated resource yet it holds the key to enhancing your sexual pleasure. Research shows that women who use lubricant regularly, whether during sex or masturbation, reported higher levels of overall sexual satisfaction and actually enjoyed sex more. And that same principle can be applied to when you're making yourself orgasm, so go ahead and give it a try.2. A sex toy—even if it's just a small vibe While your hand is certainly the easiest tool at your disposal, it doesn't hurt to reach for a little something extra. You don't have to use a sex toy every time you masturbate (in fact, it's better to mix things up from time to time). But it can certainly add a level of excitement and newness. Think of it as adding a shot of orgasmic espresso to your regular coffee order—it hits you harder and faster than your usual pick-me-up.There's a whole world of products to take your masturbation routine up several notches—I'm a fan of the handheld Mimi, but test out a few. There's a big bonus to this type of experimenting too: Knowing how to use toys on yourself can boost the intensity of an orgasm during sex as well.3. A partner willing to get touchy-feely together (in the sexiest way possible) Mutual masturbation is an amazing way to switch things up with your partner if he or she is also game. It has the intimacy and connection of partnered sex while also providing an in-person masturbation education. The fact is, new sex partners do not come with an instruction manual. Every person likes different things below the belt, and sometimes the best way to discover the right way to touch somebody is to let them show you how they like to be touched (and vice versa). Nobody knows your body better than you, and watching you touch yourself gives him an up-close look at what it takes to get you off. Plus, it's extremely arousing and visually stimulating to watch your partner touch himself or herself while you do the same.